Relationship instead of power
When everyday family life is characterized by power struggles, parents feel overwhelmed or helpless, and children or adolescents react with anger, withdrawal, or destructive behavior, many families reach their limits. Systemic parent training – relationship instead of power supports parents in precisely these situations: It helps to break out of escalating patterns, to reflect on one's own parental attitude and to develop new, sustainable ways of dealing with the growing child.
The offer is aimed at Parents of children and young people between 6 and 18 years of agewho reach their limits when dealing with challenging behavior of their children – and yet have the desire not to give up, but to Parent-child relationship new and active to design.
Goals of parent training
- Exit from power struggles – towards an attitude of presence and clarity
- Strengthening parental authoritywithout relying on control, threats or punishments
- Understanding instead of condemning – develop new perspectives on the child’s behavior
- Strengthening the parent-child relationship through real connection and reliability
- Safe handling of escalations and development of de-escalation strategies
Methodological basis: New authority
The training is based on the concept of “New Authority” to Haim Omer and Arist von SchlippeThis systemic model replaces authoritarian power behavior with a present, appreciative and committed parental attitude.
Central principles:
- Self-control instead of emotional reactions
- De-escalation instead of confrontation
- Transparency and networking
- Vigilant concern instead of withdrawal or control
- Resistance without violence
In addition, Elements of anti-violence education into the training to develop and test concrete behavioral strategies for difficult everyday situations.
What exactly do the parents learn?
During the training, parents are instructed:
- to reflect on their own attitudes and reactions,
- to recognize your own “sore spots” and deal with them more consciously,
- the child through attitude and behavior to build a sustainable bridge,
- Communicate boundaries clearlywithout jeopardizing the relationship,
- new rituals and commitment to establish in family life,
- to deal constructively with anger, withdrawal, provocation or silence.
be there analyzed concrete situations from everyday life, Practiced de-escalation techniques and the effect of different action patterns was made tangible.
Sustainable effect
The Systemic Parent Training does not only aim at short-term behavioral change, but also aims to anchor a new attitude of parental presenceParents experience themselves again as effective, develop confidence in themselves – and enable their child to reorient themselves and take on responsibility.
Framework and implementation
- Implementation as Small group training or individual format
- Duration: individually agreed (usually several weeks with regular appointments)
- Location: visiting in the home environment or in ours Consulting rooms in Kreuzberg and Neukölln
contact and consulting
Do you feel powerless in dealing with your child? Would you like to strengthen your relationship and find new ways forward? We would be happy to advise you personally.
